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Men want to know how to get laid, not how to be nice...

Question:

I appreciate that u want to treat women like ladies. but... it sounds like advise from the fifties, it sounds like advise that my dad would give me. Men want to know how to get laid, not how to be nice. we can do that on our own. No offense.

Answer:

I welcome criticism on my material, good or bad, but you have your facts wrong about what I teach and what I can prove works. So let’s cover some basics.

There are basically four schools of thought in regard to establishing some kind of a relationship with members of the opposite sex.

The first school is to be a "nice" guy or a "nice" gal. The students of this school try to be what they think other people want so they’ll be liked and accepted by everyone. These people are basically insecure. They base their words and actions on gaining acceptance. It’s very important to them to fit in with the crowd. They don’t want to rock the boat or cause problems in any way. Being liked and accepted is more important than being themselves. As a result, they are often termed "wimps" by those who know them.

Unfortunately, these people are usually lonely because they’re afraid to be themselves. They rarely have relationships that are deeply rewarding because the only way to be loved, cared for, understood and accepted for yourself is to be yourself. It isn’t that they don’t want to be themselves, rather, they’re too afraid to let others see who they really are.

The second school is the "bastard" or "bitch" approach. The students of this school treat the other person like trash, insult them, beat them up emotionally and make them their slave. The key to this school is to make sure the other person needs you more than you need them so it puts you in control.

These students believe anytime they get hurt, they hurt the other person back so much they won’t ever do it again. It’s a low grade sado/masochistic relationship and these relationships are based on varying degrees abuse. Their creed seems to be a version of, "It’s okay to get hurt as long as I hurt you more." It’s made up of control freaks who are afraid of being themselves because they’ve been hurt so much in the past they want to take this hostility out on anyone foolish enough (or abused enough) to put up with it.

The third school is the "Be whatever you think they want so they fall in love with the image you project" school. This school is very popular with women who are gold diggers and men who just want recreational sex. You basically become an actress or an actor with an audience of one (the person you’re trying to fool) so you can extract what you want from them once they fall in love with your illusion.

The main difference between the "nice guy or gal" school and this school is the "nice" guys and gals do it out of a need to be accepted (because they don’t accept themselves). But this third school is pure predator in nature. They want to extract something from the other person and they will be, say and do whatever it takes to get it. They zero in on their target and attack. Usually it’s financial security for the women and sex for the men. It’s really easy for a trained eye to spot these arrangements (I would hardly call them romantic relationships because of it’s predatory nature).

Once the gold digger gets what she wants, she suddenly loses interest in her guy, gains weight and makes herself as physically undesirable as possible so he won’t want her anymore. A divorce will soon follow because she’s gotten what she wants: Legal ties to his money. It’s ideal if he instigates the divorce so she can play the victim. Many times she’ll have his children to legally bind him to her even more and the law will force him to pay alimony and child support. Depending on how much of a user she is, and how insecure, she may want more than one of his children to bind the law to her more securely. Because of the legal issues, this type of arrangement takes longer to establish than one for the guy who just wants sex. For the predator who just wants sex, there are no legal ties to establish (and he doesn’t need to get her pregnant) so his performance doesn’t need to be complex. Just basic, straightforward deceit.

For those men and women who are interested in this kind of predator/prey arrangement there are some good books that will teach you how to lie with just the right degree of phony sincerity to lure your unwary victim in. I leave you to your own devices to find them, though.

The fourth school is the "Be Yourself" school. These relationships are the most rewarding and last the longest because when someone likes you, it’s truly you they like, love, trust and care about. Not only that, but the sex is incredible. This school is the only school where you can truly "make love" with the other person rather than just have recreational sex. When you’re involved in one of these relationships you’re rarely lonely because you have someone you can just be yourself with.

In any romantic relationship, you eventually either get married or you break up. When a "be yourself" romantic relationship ends, you have the best chance of remaining friends because your relationship is based on friendship and romance, not just sex.

...this is the school that works the best, lasts the longest and is the most rewarding.

Based on my interviews and observations of thousands (yes, thousands) of single men and women who have tried and done all four schools, as well as my own personal experiences, this is the school that works the best, lasts the longest and is the most rewarding. Everything else is comes in second... a distant second.

It’s the school I recommend and teach. But I don’t stop there. I teach you how to spot and avoid the above three schools with class, style and dignity. I teach you how to be yourself. Other instructors in this area just say "be yourself" and leave you to your own devices. Why don’t they teach you how to be yourself, how to gain genuine self confidence, how to find out in less than five minutes if a relationship with the other person will work out? Quite simply, because they don’t know how.

In fourteen years of research as a bartender in some of Hollywood’s hottest nightspots, I personally interviewed thousands of men and women who were very successful with members of the opposite sex. Men and women of all sizes and types who were actually involved in the game on a daily basis. They did the field testing and research on all four schools of thought. They polished the techniques. I took the notes. We worked together in establishing a System that works in the real world. When I say the "be yourself" school works the best, it’s backed by thousands of real life tests by men and women in the field, playing the game. People who had a vested interest in succeeding in the school of romance.

So when you say, "I appreciate that u want to treat women like ladies. but... it sounds like advise from the fifties, it sounds like advise that my dad would give me. Men want to know how to get laid, not how to be nice. we can do that on our own. no offense" I have to smile. I have yet to meet, see, or interact with a woman who doesn’t like to be treated like a lady, with respect. And that doesn’t mean kiss her butt. I base that information on interviews, interaction and observation of over 10,000 single men and women of all ages, sizes, and types.

Now that you know what I teach, where I got my information and how I got my proof that it works, I’m more than willing to listen to your criticism.

Now let’s get to your major concern with women: Having sex. No, not having sex, rather, as you put it, "get laid."

By your own admittance, based on your letter, you’re not looking for any of the above four schools of relationships. You’re only interested in "getting laid". No games, no ties, no communication, no wasted time and minimal interaction. Here’s a sure fire technique that will always work for you. I guarantee you will always "get laid" and you can have it as often as you want, for as long as you want, whenever you want. You won’t have to worry or be concerned with her feelings, whether you’ve satisfied her, or whether she falls for your phony charm or lines. You won’t need to waste your time and money on N.L.P., seduction techniques, hypnosis, slick opening lines or voodoo. This technique has been used successfully for thousands of years: Go to a prostitute.

What you are looking for is a business transaction, not romance or a relationship. And here’s the bonus: for a few extra dollars she’ll throw in a few fake orgasms. You should be as happy as a pig in mud (you may even look like one but that’s another story).

The thing I like best about guys like you is you make guys in the fourth school look good just by showing up.

I have to admit, you have my pity because you don’t even realize women are human beings who would gladly, willingly and lovingly bring you to ecstasy sexually, emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually if you’d only give them the chance.

Who do you think will give you more pleasure, someone who truly cares about you or someone who just wants to abuse you while you abuse their body? Here’s a sobering piece of reality in the form of a Golden Rule I teach my students: "If you are abusing them, I guarantee they are abusing you. If you refuse to abuse them, I guarantee they can’t abuse you."

Good luck and God Bless. You’re going to need it.